Four Themes in the Learning Pillar:


1. Ordinary Jewels

2. Enchanted Loom

3. Growing Key Resources

4. Flowers Pulling Weeds

Topics covered in this pillar:


  • The difference between passing states and lasting traits.
  • Inner strengths as beneficial traits grounded in neural structure.
  • How we grow traits in the brain. The two stage process of learning. Experiences held in short-term memory buffers getting transferred to long-term storage; activated states becoming installed traits.
  • How inner strengths come from beneficial states that are installed in the brain.
  • Why beneficial states that are not installed are wasted on the brain, with little or no learning, growth, or lasting value. Why this is the fundamental weakness in most forms of psychotherapy, coaching, mindfulness training, human resources development, character education in children, and informal efforts at healing, personal growth, and spiritual practice.
  • The impact of the brain’s negativity bias routinely encoding unpleasant, often harmful mental states – anxiety, frustration, irritation, pressure, hurt, inadequecy, conflict, depression – into neural structure.
  • How the brain is good at learning from bad experiences but bad at learning from good experiences – even though learning from good experiences is the main pathway to growing inner strengths.
  • To solve this problem, how to do the four steps of taking in the good, summarized in the acronym HEAL:
    Have a beneficial experience.
    Enrich it.
    Absorb it.
    Link positive and negative material. [optional]
  • Why it’s good to take in the good.
  • Identifying the key experiences that will help you the most these days. How to look for and internalize these key experiences to grow the particular inner strengths you most need. Antidote experiences.
  • Using these key resource experiences to help heal old pain and fill the hole in your heart. Using the power of the 4th, Link step of HEAL.

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